21 Dirty Talk Phrases For Beginners That Bring The Heat In Bed 🔥

Unlock confidence, connection, and wild chemistry with just a few whispered words…

Let’s be real. Dirty talk can feel scary for beginners.

“What if I sound stupid?”

“What if they laugh?”

“What if I have no idea what to say?”

Yep, we’ve all been there. The truth is—dirty talk isn’t about being a porn star. It’s about being present, playful, and a little (or a lot) bold.

And when done right, it’s one of the sexiest ways to build anticipation, turn each other on, and boost intimacy like never before.

So I’m giving you a cheat sheet—broken down into three easy categories—to help you ease into dirty talk without the cringe.

1. 🔥 Talk About How You Feel

Sometimes, the sexiest thing you can say is what you’re actually feeling in the moment. These help you stay present and build confidence.

Try these:

“God, I love the way you touch me.”

“You make me feel so wanted right now.”

“I’m getting so turned on just looking at you.”

“I love how hard you make me breathe.”

“I can’t stop thinking about what you’re doing to me.”

“Every part of me wants you right now.”

“I feel so sexy when I’m with you.”

💡 Pro Tip: Use your breath, tone, and eye contact to add intensity. Say it low. Slow. Let the heat build.

2. 😈 Tell Them What You Want To Do To Them

This is where things get playful, bold, and a little wicked. You’re taking the lead—and that’s incredibly sexy.

Try these:

8. “I want to tease you until you beg.”

9. “I’m going to kiss every inch of you tonight.”

10. “I want to feel you moaning under me.”

11. “I’m going to make you come so hard you forget your name.”

12. “I can’t wait to wrap my mouth around you.”

13. “I want to ride you and not stop until we’re both a mess.”

14. “I’m going to take control tonight. No escaping.”

💡 Pro Tip: Whisper these before foreplay starts, or send them as texts during the day to build sexual tension.

3. 😍 Tell Them What You Want

This invites connection and honesty—and gives your partner exactly what turns you on. Sexy and smart.

Try these:

15. “I want you to pin me down and make me yours.”

16. “I want your hands everywhere.”

17. “I want to feel your lips all over me.”

18. “I want you to talk dirty to me while you touch me.”

19. “I want to hear you lose control.”

20. “I want to be completely undone by you.”

21. “I want to taste every part of you.”

💡 Pro Tip: Saying “I want…” is empowering and deeply sexy. It tells your partner that you own your desire.

Final Thoughts: You Don’t Need to Be a Sex God/Goddess Overnight 👑

Dirty talk is a muscle. The more you use it, the more confident and creative you’ll become. Start with 1–2 phrases, say them with intention, and see how your partner reacts. The spark? Oh, it will ignite. 🔥

And if you want more support on becoming wildly confident in bed (and beyond), I’ve got you.

Check out my Pleasure Circle—a safe, sacred space for women to explore desire, sensuality, and expression.

Ready to find your voice in the bedroom?

Start here—with a whisper. 😘